Looking inward is easily ignored and forgotten, as it needs to be a persistent and conscious effort to nurture the inner world if we are to design the outer world of our dreams. The outer world is filled with people we call friends, family, co-workers, items we’ve purchased, items we were gifted, things we needed, things we wanted, animals, trees, plants, birds, sirens, cars, laughter, cries, smells of bakeries, pizza shops, sewage, flowers, dinner in the oven, ect... The inner world is filled with thoughts and beliefs that express into the outer world through choices, actions, and behaviors. Therefore, to modify the outer world to be one that we desire, we have to begin looking inside at our thoughts and beliefs. What do we consciously and unconsciously tell ourselves everyday? Why do we belive what we do? This is an opportunity to look at your choices, actions, and behaviors to determine whether they are in your best interest and in alignment with the thoughts and beliefs you desire.
When life doesn’t reflect the health and happiness you imagine, it’s time to look inward. While altruism is admired by some, it is not a sustainable pathway. The transition from a life of complete selflessness to one that includes self care is a challenging one. For in the beginning, it may seem selfish to take time out for yourself. It will feel odd not doing what you have grown accustomed to doing for others. This choice involves setting new boundaries, which may very well be the most difficult task. When you recognize the need for change and declare it so, others aren’t always so willing to go along with it. They may not understand why you desire to change. Maybe they will understand and support you, but if they don’t, you’ll have to find a way to express your needs that feels good to you. In the end, taking care of yourself results in a new outer world, one in which you are finding others who love themselves as deeply as you love yourself. Life shifts in your favor as you no longer search outside of yourself for the love you were once denied. Practicing self care with the goal of self love, will result in your ability to comfort and care for youself during the most difficult times of life. You'll be more gentle to yourself when life sweeps you up and changes your direction. You'll have the strength and courage to set your course again, while simulatenously being able to support others through their rough times.
Self care is what you do to ensure you’re happy and healthy. Self care is what you do to make sure you are available to give to others. Self care can take many forms and change throughout a lifetime.
To fully grasp the concept of self care, you must first begin to look at how you take care of yourself. Do you love yourself like you love your loved ones? Do you give yourself the same attention? Do you say “thank you” to yourself when you do something that brings you joy and health or when you give yourself a gift? When you provide self care, you can begin to recognize that you are caring for yourself because it comes from a place of love. When you love yourself, you are able to more fully love others in a sustainable and regenerative manner. We cannot nurture others in a healthy way if we do not first nurture ourselves.
When you take this step to acknowledge your own self care practices, you can begin to improve and transform them into self love as you grow. If you currently have a routine of self care, take note that you are providing yourself with love. Consciously recognize that you are doing these actions out of love for your life and others. Consider your self care a practice and commit to your evolution as a human to a fully awakened state.
When you have practiced the 5 Senses Activation, you’ve gotten a taste of an awareness exercise that attunes you into your internal world and physiological sensations. If you haven’t done that yet, I suggest you practice that method alongside this new method to cultivate the necessary awareness to shift your life into the direction of one with less struggle. This next exercise assesses your self care. Recognizing where we are now, allows you space to develop further into what you desire.
Use this as a guide to quantify your personal practices of self care in various realms. Draw your own wellness wheel with 6 pie pieces and write in your self care practices. When you are done, shade in the pie piece to reflect your amount of self care practices and create percentages to go with each section. Notice how you may spend more time in one area than another. This is not a place for harsh self judgment. This a place to recognize simply what we do and where we can grow.
When you're done mapping your self care, see where you can adjust and add in new practices to support yourself to create more balance in your life that will result in more happiness and health. Below, I've listed and briefly described a handful of practices that you can explore more deeply that will help you design the life of your choosing.
When you love yourself you make choices that are in alignment with your integrity.
When you love yourself you make choices that bring you happiness and bliss.
When you love yourself you are able to truly experience what it means to love another.
Doing the work to maintain a healthy body to serve you in the life you desire involves more movement throughout the day. Increased movement pumps up blood and oxygen flow and helps maintain healthy physiological and mental processes. Adding a routine of strength and flexibility training will be increase your quality of life as you age. Sleeping is your body’s time to recover and rest from the day’s stressors. Aim for 8 hours. Body scans help you learn the language of the body. This comes into play with physical exercise, eating, sex, and everyday encounters that trigger physical stress responses. Sound nutrition maintains the physical body and the mind. Eating a rainbow of colors each day will also support you in turning your dreams into reality.
Appreciate and admire your body for what it is right now and not for what it was, or will be, will give you more freedom to love others, their bodies, and choices. Charting menstrual cycles creates self awareness and understanding of your natural shifts throughout the month. Balancing the inner masculine and feminine within one person ensures outward expressions are also balanced and healthy. Have open dialogue about sexual desires with consent and boundaries to establish a healthy sexual dynamic.
Brain Game: Say the color of each word.
Establishing your personal values is one of the most important self care practices that I can recommend. What do you purchase? What do you do during the day? What do you do in the evening? These are clues to help you determine what you value, not what you wish you valued. It’s important to be honest with this, so you can get the most out of it. Establish what you want and create goals to remain in integrity with those desires. Challenge your mind by doing something new and different, like brushing your teeth with your non-dominant hand, or doing the neuroplasticity exercises in this post. Do activities that are experiential learning opportunities. Doing more allows space for you to embody knowledge, rather than simply acquiring it.
Recognize the story you tell yourself and rewrite it in loving and kind language to change your past and future for the better. Acknowledging and navigating around emotional triggers is a key element in this work. I will address tackling emotional triggers in more depth in another post. Communicating in loving language to yourself and others is an act of self care, and ultimately self love. Journaling, Pages, and contemplation all serve roles in emotional self care. Practicing gratitude, honoring your pain through various forms of expression and living in the moment all can be added to your self care practice.
Being a part of community is vital to survival. We are social beings and we need company and reflections of others to support our growth. During play, dance and art our imaginations can explore new pathways to live, gain confidence, and inspiration. Establishing boundaries is needed to maintain healthy relationships in a social community. Spending time nurturing current relationships feels good on both ends, providing a healthy social dynamic.
Connecting with the rhythms of nature through menstrual cycle and moon mapping, we can see how we are not disconnected from nature, we are part of it. By observing nature and it’s behaviors and beauty, we can also feel this connection. Meditation and prayer is the most powerful tool to listen within to witness a higher power and feel a sense of calm. Creating a sacred space, such as an alter, can also support your inner peace.
By allowing yourself to receive your own self care, you allow yourself to receive your own love.
You can only give as much as you receive.
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I really want to share this process that supports your desire to change and grow into the best person you can be. Whatever changes you seek in your future, there are always going to be a million pathways to choose and many more details to adjust and modify, come to terms with, forgive, and let go. During the process of emptying, rewiring, and resetting, you are left wide open to the infinite possibilities of growth and expansion.
Sometimes not knowing your specific direction, or route, is going to be exactly where you need to go. I know this initially sounds absurd, so stay with me. At this moment, the changes that need to occur may not be clear, but this process will help open you up to finding your answers. Releasing your expectations, fear of failure, and past trauma that has guided you into this cycle of patterns that serve you with pain and suffering will be the juicy reward of utilizing this practice.
Sometimes spontaneous change can occur and it will last a lifetime, yet we don’t really know what it was that happened to create that ability to change. Here, I want to guide you into creating the perfect environment within, that will nurture your ability to adapt and grow, much like spontaneous lasting change, retreats and workshops sometimes provide.
So let's nurture your inner soil, water the seeds, and discover what takes root and pushes through.
Do the conscious work that becomes the unconscious.
New Year’s Traditions
This is the perfect time to talk about change. At the end of the year, it’s a tradition to review the previous year, for all of it’s accomplishments and set goals that will supersede any reminiscent failures. This is an amazing time to reflect on what we did and recognize the patterns that may exist in our life that are holding us back from being the best we can be.
There are infinite pathway possibilities to grow and develop into your best self. I’m not here to say there is only one way; I’m here to support you in attaining your goals in an efficient, and purposeful manner.
The New Year brings energy and motivation to make these changes in your life that will usher you towards more happiness and health. This is a beautiful practice, however, these changes seem to drop off midway through the year as old habits sneak back up on you. So what is it about change that is so difficult to sustain?
After the New Year’s glow, barriers get in the way. Time seems to escape us and there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. Sleep begins to suffer, nutrition goes out the window. Slowly, you begin to recognize you’re getting sick more often and need to make some changes again to get back to being healthy. You refocus on the things you can control. You pick up a new diet recipe book, you buy a month package to a yoga studio, you make a choice out of desperation, fear, and guilt, starting the cycle all over again.
Get ready for the change of a lifetime!
What if I told you that you have the power to navigate beyond these patterns that don’t serve you? That you didn’t have to struggle or settle for being unhappy? Or that you could have a healthy lifestyle that frees up time and energy to do the things you truly enjoy? What if I told you that you could create lasting change by doing a few practices each day that don’t involve changing your diet, picking up a new exercise tool, or committing to a gym membership. What if I told you all that you needed was the desire to change and the will to try something different. Even if you don’t know exactly what your goal is, this is a moment that you will create space to support yourself in discovering that dream; it will be the catalyst to focalizing your goals and desires.
Make choices that create inner change that establish lasting changes outside of yourself.
It’s time to toss the cycle of beating yourself up when you neglect to do something you previously committed to. No more shaming yourself daily and piling on the guilt. These emotions and constant thoughts running through your mind, eventually begin to express through your body; solidifying their power in your life. In this type of work, the inner work reflects on the outside; so we must begin the process within. Now is the time to commit to doing something that will fully support your growth into a new realm of existence. Trust that you know your previous path was not what you desire and step toward the deep and wild place of the unknown, being fully supported by those who have traveled the path.
Everyone that I’ve coached knew what needed to be done to make the changes they desired; exercise and eat a healthy diet. What they were missing was something pivitol to their success. They needed to change their Body and Mind awareness and reactions, to adapt to the change they desired. They didn’t know that specific work needed to be done within Body and Mind to make those external changes last and become a part of their being rather than something that has to be willed into existence with constant struggle and disdain. It’s time to release yourself from excuses, negative thoughts, and patterns by emptying, rewiring, and resetting your Body and Mind to support you fully in this transition.
This is a well known concept of change that occurs under the radar in most cases of lasting change. Here, I want to highlight the core of change and allow you the opportunity to consciously choose this route; consciously decide to make accepting change a part of your life as you grow and develop into the person of your dreams.
This is a path of a lifetime. Where you are right now didn’t occur overnight, so be gentle and kind to yourself as you begin to learn, develop, and integrate these practices into your life.
Empty, Rewire, & Reset
The mind, when put to good use can become your most powerful tool to streamline the changes you desire. The goal is to be more adaptable to change to support your growth and development into a person with dreams and the passion to pursue them. After you empty, rewire, and reset, you’ll have room to declare your choice and make it so.
Do the following to prepare yourself to create space for sustainable changes in your life to better serve you, your needs, and goals.
Prime the Nervous System for Change
The nervous system is made up of neurons that transmit electrochemical signals, distributing communication impulses throughout the Mind and the Body. In order for us to obtain new healthy habits, we have to mediate the neuronal patterns in our body to adapt to the changes we desire. When we engage in thoughts, behaviors and actions that are habitual, the pathway of that signal is strong. The work we do will encourage plasticity within the neurons, that will allow pathways to form that will serve our best interests.
1. Empty. Emptying the brain is a mental practice of expression, letting go, and discipline. Still sleepy eyed reaching for my pen and paper that I set up the night before, I scribble down thoughts before any new events can happen in the day to grab my attention and train of thoughts. Frustration, anger, and fear easily take me away from the moment and rob me of the benefits of this process, so hibernating until it is done is what I like to do. If thoughts from the night before are still lingering this is a good time to express and process those emotions and ideas that take up precious space in the brain. When I’m done writing, I fold the paper and put it in a place that sees no light. When the circling thoughts are expelled from the brain, there is more room for creative and imaginative thoughts to take root. Needless worry and ruminating are put to rest. Explore how this process works for you as you commit to do it everyday.
Make time in the morning or before bed to handwrite on blank sheets of paper everything that is in your head. Every thought that trails across your consciousness, expel it onto the blank page in front of you. It can be a list of things to do, to remember, poetry, your budget, a dream, whatever comes to mind, write it out. The goal is to not think too much about what you’re writing, let it flow.
The Artist's Way Book by Julia Cameron called this, Pages. https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-Spiritual-Higher-Creativity/dp/1585421464
She details the process:
I purposefully blurred out the top photo to keep my writing hidden from you and I, but I just wanted to show you an example of the process. As you can see, I wrote as much as I could without stressing too much about filling up the 3rd page. The second photo shows you how I fold it up when I'm done.
2. Rewire. When I first began my journey into the Body, Mind, & Soul, I learned how to feel internal changes of my body through body scans. I remember laying in yoga, Pilates, and ballet classes with my eyes closed, while my instructors guided my awareness from my toes all the way up to my head. There was always a sense of curiosity and wonder in my mind as each time was different. It was an exploration of my body, emotions, thoughts and the way that I sense their presence internally and externally. Body scans physiologically activate somatosensory receptors as you focus your attention on one body part a time to sense any discomfort, stress, tightness, pain, tingles, temperature and where it is in space.
Catherine E Kerr Et al. 2013 said beautifully, that this process teaches you how to witness your “body sensations change and fluctuate from moment to moment...how to observe the arising and passing of challenging body sensations...and have the ability to modify emotional perception and regulation”. There is a parallel here between physiological and neurological adaptations that occur during a body scan and active decision making moments. This process supports you in obtaining the changes you desire by rewiring your nervous system to sense change, adapt to the sensations, and to relax more deeply.
How do you do a body scan?
Begin with the intention to finish the exercise within 10-15 minutes. If you get distracted during the process, take a deep breath, let go of your distracting thoughts and refocus on what body part you’re on and your breathe, again noticing the sensations you feel.
Where do I start?
Next, find a comfortable position laying down flat. Place a pillow under your knees to protect your low back if you like. Take a few deep breaths and begin to notice your whole body as you lie still. Notice how your breath travels into your lungs, causing your ribs to expand and your belly to rise. Notice what happens as you cannot breathe in anymore air. You pause and exhale. Now, gently close your eyes and bring your awareness down to your feet, becoming fully aware of the sensations you feel while remaining still and relaxed.
What order do I go in?
Remember that song, “Head, shoulders, knees and toes”? Well, we’re going to reverse it. “Toes, knees, shoulders, and head”. I like to begin at the base of our bodies since with are rooted from the feet up.
Make sure to circle around the entire body part before moving up the body. From the toes, move up the feet to the ankles to the lower legs (calves), knees, thighs, hips, belly/low back, chest/mid back, shoulders, arms, hands, neck, head and finishing off with noticing the whole body together. Take a few deep breaths and slowly begin to wiggle your toes and move your fingertips to bring you back into your outer body.
Now that you’ve made room in your brain by clearing out thoughts through writing, and have begun the rewiring process of your somatosensory receptors to fully become aware of your internal and external processes, it’s now time to begin resetting your brain to adapt to new information. It’s time to “turn your brain on” as said by Dr. Martin Hart from the HANSA Center. The task is to stimulate the brain and get it running in the morning (even after lunch is a good idea). This practice integrates the previous work and modifies the brain's neurons to receive and accept new information to learn.
How do we turn the brain on?
Stand with your back near a wall for support if you feel unstable, otherwise, any clear floor space will do. You’ll be marching in place, while simultaneously counting and humming.
So let’s maximize your brain’s potential!
As you finish, take a few more deep breathes to soak in the moment. Notice any changes in your physcial body and in your mind as you continue your day with your brain turned on. For me, scenary seems brighter, more crisp and in focus. Choices seem easier, and I'm able to recognize when I'm getting in my own way quicker and able to adjust. I see life in this euphoric lens. This is the life I'm living and this is how I choose to live it. I want to support myself in living with more ease, how about you?
Not sure how to do this last exercise? I made a video for you!
Now that you've embraced change to grow to new heights by emptying, rewiring, & resetting, what will you choose to support your growth into the best possible you?
Please share with me your journey exploring these practices and what you choose to help you grow!
The Artist's Way Book by Julia Cameron https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-Spiritual-Higher-Creativity/dp/1585421464
Mindfulness starts with the body: somatosensory attention and top-down modulation of cortical alpha rhythms in mindfulness meditation. Catherine Et al. 2013. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3570934/
Click here to see Dr. Martin Heart from HANSA Center explain in full detail how to he instructs self directed Neuroplasticity.
Tis’ the season to be grateful. I give you the gift of being grateful for the rest of your life. This will be the best gift you’ve ever received.
Whatever you’re doing right now, Stop, drop into yourself and take a moment to think about the word gratitude. What does it mean to you? How can you embody gratitude more in your life? Does this mean you give everything you own away? Does this mean you give a little extra tip to someone? The meaning will be different for everyone, but I encourage you to play with this word daily to see the transformation that it can have in your life.
The most difficult time to practice is when you are struggling, so do yourself a favor and practice it in happy moments and then continue practicing in increasingly more difficult times of life. It will eventually get easier and the meaning will shift as you begin to embody the word rather than use it as a mantra.
Here are some things to look forward to when you embrace each moment with gratitude:
Think about the word gratitude, again. What would it look like if you were to embody the word all day today? What would it look like for you to embody it for one whole week? A month? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year?
Every moment is an opportunity to be grateful. Begin to create some wonder about what it would feel like to be grateful. Each day you can be grateful for something different, or you can be grateful for the same thing each day. Let your heart be the guide to what you want to express gratitude towards; whether it is spending time with family or having the courage to break away from an unhealthy habit. Whatever comes to mind, honor it with gratitude.
Now pick a goal and commit to yourself to be more grateful and discover what that word means to you and then share it with me in the comments.
No matter what your problems involve, sex, love, relationships, work, ect... Becoming aware of yourself and the situations and the patterns that exist in your life is the # 1 step to finding relief from suffering. Once you become aware of the negative patterns that persist, you are able to consciously change them. Let’s say you become angry every time someone cuts you off while you are driving and every time it happens and you don’t recognize this pattern. The moment someone cuts you off while driving becomes an anger trigger that will continue to serve you in this way, causing pain and suffering to you and those around you. If you recognize and acknowledge this anger trigger at some point in your life, then you can gain the power to shift it into something more productive. Holding onto this negative emotion of anger without recognizing its core, and properly allowing its expression will continue the cycle of suffering. For the purpose of this post, I will focus on the foundational building blocks and the source of cultivating the awareness that will allow you freedom from these kinds of emotional triggers. In subsequent posts, I will build on to this practice that will guide you to ultimate fulfillment that results from emotional mastery.
So in writing this, I’m giving you permission to dive inward, to your depths to discover what it means to be truly human and to bring your awareness to the forefront of your existence that allows you the space to choose your own path to the life you desire, amidst all the chaos.
So many times we step outside of ourselves, seeking to find fulfillment in a new car, a new house, a new relationship, a new situation, ect... yet that what we seek is right here. It's inside of us. You alone have the key to unlock your full potential and power to live the life you truly desire; one free of struggle and suffering.
The easiest route to recognizing external patterns is to recognize internal patterns first. That’s why we are beginning with the the body and the breath. For me, I began this journey outward, rather than inward. I created extensive awareness outside of myself, causing paralyzing anxiety and emotional confusion by not being able to connect to my inner wisdom and awareness. So learning from my mistake, and finding my center and being in alignment, I guide you with confidence first into your body, into your heart, and into yourself.
By becoming aware of your inner self first and foremost, you will begin to cultivate the space needed within to determine what your wants and needs that are in alignment with your deepest desires. Your thoughts, actions, and behaviors begin to work together to support you in your goals. This is where the word flow comes in. Where you are doing the work you enjoy, you are finding people in your life who lift you up even higher. The challenges become opportunities and life becomes an effortless extension of the diligent work you’ve been doing inside.
Doing the work is not always comfortable. Sometimes we are faced with realities that want to hold us back from growth. This is where your dedication and commitment matter. You have to take full responsibility for your development to see the results you desire. Heading into the unknown can be the scariest, yet most rewarding action you can take. I’m here to support you in your journey, so be brave and do the walk.
Below are guiding words and questions to activate your 5 senses that will cultivate your inner awareness. The process will take some time, so being patient with yourself is a huge step for your success. Practice this meditation as much as you need and want. No need to worry if some of you answers are no’s. This is your cue to step into a place of discomfort and attempt to feel around for a yes. Your best self is waiting on the other side.
I know it seems impossible to change sometimes because what you are doing is all you know. I’m here to tell you today that you have more power than you could ever imagine. I always like to refer back to the most simple, yet applicable example to when you were a child. At one time, you didn’t know how to tie your shoes. Someone older, showed you a few tricks and then you began your practice. Sometimes you got it, but you didn’t quite understand how it all came together. After diligent practice, sometimes needing assistance, you finally understood how it worked and you did it by yourself. You got it! You really understood it well enough to teach someone else. In the process of learning a new skill, you also became more resilient to challenges. Tackling life challenges are just the same as they were when you were younger. Only now that we are adults, we have the conscious choice to support ourselves during this shift. We have to recognize that we want to grow, choose a path and do it until we get it; forgiving ourselves in the process when we need help or guidance. You have already established that you are dedicated to your own success simply by reading this.
So what does it mean to be self-aware? By obtaining awareness around particular patterns in life, you can then properly give them the attention needed to access positive and lasting change. The goal here is not to judge whether you think something in your life is fine or if it is broken. Nothing about you is broken or wrong, everything is good. Knowing that we as humans, have the natural, expansive potential to be better, stronger, and have a greater impact on the world each waking moment I have to encourage you to be your best self. Releasing judgement and surrendering your attachments in this stage is pivotal to the success of continuing onto the next steps after becoming aware. If we get locked in judgement and the stories that are created with attachment, we worry about whether we’re doing the right things and we’ll end up in a place where no growth can occur and we’re stuck in a spiral of self destruction.
5 Senses Meditation to Activate Inner Awareness
Find a comfortable seated position in a place with no distractions. Close all other tabs on your computer. And cell phone ringer off. Maybe tell your family that you need a few minutes of quiet time. As you practice more, you can try this in more busy places for a challenge. For now, choose with a quiet place to focus on the guided questions and imagery. If you feel yourself lingering on an answer for too long, straying from the question too far, or reacting to a scene that takes you away from this exercise, refocus on your breath, answer the question and move on to the next.
Sound: Breathe as you normally do. Now close your eyes and begin to notice the sound of your breath as it flows in and out. If you hear other sounds coming from outside, stay connected to the sound of your breath by breathing louder.
Smell: As you inhale, what smells are you breathing in? Are they pleasant? Are they pungent? Maybe you don’t smell anything. Can you enjoy the smell without letting your thoughts take you too far away from the presesnt smell?
Feel: Begin to ask yourself how you are breathing. Are you inhaling through your nose or mouth? Are you exhaling out of your mouth or nose? Notice whether your chest is rising. Can you feel your rib bones expanding as you inhale? As you inhale, imagine your lungs completely filling up with oxygen rich air. Can you feel your belly muscles tighten as you wring out your lungs to exhale every last particle? Notice any tension around your face and neck as you continue to breathe. Can you feel those muscles begin to relax as you exhale? Can you feel yourself breathing deeper? Taking slower, longer breaths?
Sight: What images arise as you continue your breath? Can you see your thoughts surfacing and floating away as if they were clouds subjected to the wind? Can you visualize yourself sitting or lying in the place you are, consciously breathing, relaxing, melting into stillness? Can you remain still with your eyes closed and connected to your breath?
Taste: Can you taste the air streaming across your tongue and throat as you inhale? Be present with whatever you may or may not be able to taste in this moment for a few slow and deep breaths.
To close after a meditation like this, I always like to find a place of gratitude. Here is something that comes up for me after this practice: Thank you body for being the miracle that you are and allowing such amazing processes to occur to sustain my life and heal my wounds. Feel free to use what I have or come up with your own.
Look out for another post that goes over exercises to practice self-awareness in more depth.
This moment and all the moments before have provided me with enough joy and inspiration to share my knowledge and experience with the world, so others may benefit and live the life of their dreams.
This year has been full of reflection on what exactly it is I have to offer, removing the aspect of comparing myself to the everyone else, and really valuing my experience for what it was.
I recognize that I have much to offer in the realm of healing the Body, Mind, & Soul with my knowledge of Kinesiology: Applied Exercise Science, 10 years in the sex work industry, and personal experience healing sexual trauma, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, drug and alcohol addiction, and unhealthy relationship patterns.
My experience has allowed me to observe problems in a holistic and integrated approach. One part of the Body, Mind & Soul equation cannot be healed without looking at another. The body expresses what the mind is thinking. The soul expresses through the mind. When one part is sick, the other is not heard or interpreted correctly. My approach to healing is about finding awareness within all parts, learning to listen to each on their own, and then finding a balance as they become in alignment with each other.
Within each part of the Body, Mind, & Soul, there are many aspects that will be addressed within. For the body, we’ll look at pain, pleasure, tension, hunger, and other physical sensations. For the Mind we’ll look at stress, emotional triggers, what stories you are living and how you can support yourself in changing your mind to match your deepest desires. For the Soul, we’ll begin to flush out your core values, skills, purpose, gifts, personal life meaning, and passions through work with nature.
Through various exercises of the Body, Mind, & Soul, true nourishment can be accomplished. When the Body and Mind are supported in this way, the Soul is given the space to thrive and fully shine. This is ultimately the goal to living a wholesome, fulfilling, and authentic life.
Aimee, 30 years old views life as a gift and an opportunity to live your dreams. Stick around to hear how she does it and supports you in doing it, too.